Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things—listening to worship music on your drive to work, showing up for Bible study every week, following yet another reading plan, even praying over your goals, and still… your faith feels flat?
You love God. You’re showing up. You’re putting in the effort.
But deep down, something still feels off.
You keep wondering, “Why does my faith feel stuck when I’m doing everything I’m supposed to?”
Most Christian women I talk to reach a point where their faith feels more like a checklist than a connection. You’re not losing your faith, you’re just tired of doing without growing.
And here’s the truth: it’s not your passion that’s the problem.
It’s not your love for God, your discipline, or your desire.
It’s your method.
You’ve been trying to grow your faith by following someone else’s formula, when God designed you with your own.
We’re going to unpack why your faith growth may feel stalled—and what to do about it.
Because faith growth isn’t about doing more, it’s about doing what works for you.
Let’s look at how simple shifts in your approach can transform not only your spiritual life but the way you lead, work, and live every day.
Trying Harder vs. Growing by Design
When your faith feels stuck, your first instinct might be to try harder.
You add more to your plate: an extra devotional, another podcast, a new journal, or maybe even a second Bible study group. You think, “If I could just be more consistent, maybe I’d finally feel close to God.”
But that’s where the frustration builds.
You end up exhausted, not encouraged.
Because spiritual growth doesn’t come from adding more effort, it comes from aligning your effort with your design.
You were never meant to connect with God the same way your friend, pastor, or mentor does.
When you try to, you end up in a cycle of guilt and comparison, thinking, “What’s wrong with me?” when really, nothing is wrong.
You’re simply using someone else’s method for your spiritual growth.
Growing by design means discovering how God uniquely wired you to love Him with all your Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength—what I call your Faith Shape™.
Discovering Your Faith Shape™
Mark 12:30 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.”
Those aren’t just poetic words—they’re four distinct ways God designed us to connect with Him.
Your Faith Shape™ is your personal blueprint for spiritual growth. It’s how you’re naturally wired to love God, experience His presence, and grow closer to Him in a way that feels life-giving, not draining.
Here’s what that looks like:
- 💟 Heart-led women connect through emotion, relationships, and worship.
- ♦️ Soul-led women connect through reflection, creativity, and meaning.
- ⭕ Mind-led women connect through study, structure, and understanding.
- 🟦 Strength-led women connect through action, service, and follow-through.
Each of us has a unique blend of these four areas—but one is usually dominant. That’s your primary leading. It’s where your faith feels most natural and fulfilling.
When you understand your Faith Shape™, you stop forcing yourself into someone else’s rhythm. You begin to grow by design—the way God created you to.
Ready to Discover Yours?
If you’ve ever wondered why some spiritual practices light you up while others leave you stuck… this is where it all starts.
Take the Faith Shape Quiz to uncover how God designed you to connect with Him.
It only takes a few minutes—and the results will give you instant clarity about what’s missing and how to grow with freedom and joy again.
Why (does) Your Growth Feels Stalled
Here’s the truth most women never hear: your faith isn’t stagnant because you’re not disciplined enough; it’s because you’ve been trying to grow in a way that doesn’t match your design.
Imagine trying to grow your business or start a team project without a plan.
You wouldn’t wake up each day and just “see what happens.” You’d set goals, create a strategy, and measure progress.
Yet when it comes to our faith, that’s exactly what we do.
We want to feel spiritually alive, but we don’t have a clear rhythm or direction. We just keep adding more—more devotionals, more groups, more commitments—hoping something will finally “click.”
The result? Exhaustion, guilt, and comparison.
You start to think, “Maybe I’m just not spiritual enough.”
You question your closeness with God or wonder if you’re doing something wrong.
But nothing could be further from the truth.
You’re not behind. You’re not broken.
You’re simply using someone else’s growth strategy for your soul.
Just like your business or career thrives when you work in your strengths, your faith flourishes when you grow in alignment with your Faith Shape™.
When you know whether you’re Heart-, Soul-, Mind-, or Strength-led, everything starts to make sense:
✅ You see why certain spiritual practices never stick.
✅ You stop feeling guilty for not doing what others do.
✅ You finally have peace about what actually helps you grow.
Your faith stops feeling like effort and starts feeling like overflow.
The Shift From Frustration to Flow
When you grow by design, not default, something changes inside you:
- Your connection with God deepens. Quiet time becomes quality time.
- Your peace expands. You stop striving and start trusting.
- Your leadership transforms. You show up with confidence, focus, and grace—because your inner world is aligned with God’s rhythm.
That’s the moment you realize—your spiritual growth isn’t separate from your work or leadership. It’s the foundation of it.
When your faith is in rhythm, your whole life comes into rhythm.
From Guilt to Grace: How Inner Growth Shapes Outer Influence
Once you understand your Faith Shape™ and your growth path, something begins to shift on the inside.
You move from guilt to growth. From pressure to peace. From striving to surrender.
Instead of trying to force your faith into someone else’s mold, you finally discover what actually fuels your connection with God and it feels effortless.
Understanding your Faith Shape™ brings:
✅ Clarity — You know exactly what draws you closer to God and what simply drains you.
✅ Peace — You stop comparing your faith practices to others and rest in God’s unique design for you.
✅ Freedom — You rediscover joy in your relationship with Him, no longer treating it like a checklist but as a daily conversation of love and trust.
When your inner world becomes settled, your outer world begins to reflect it.
This inward alignment sets the stage for outward fruit.
Leading From Overflow, Not Obligation
When you’re no longer weighed down by guilt or “shoulds,” everything changes—especially how you show up in your work and leadership.
You begin to lead from a place of overflow, not depletion. You make decisions with calm confidence because your peace isn’t tied to performance—it’s rooted in presence. You carry an atmosphere of grace into every meeting, every conversation, and every responsibility.
Your spiritual alignment becomes your greatest leadership advantage.
Because when your faith rhythms are in sync with your design, you model what wholeness looks like.
You show your team, your family, and your clients that spiritual growth and professional excellence don’t compete—they complement each other.
Faith alignment builds emotional stability, stronger boundaries, and greater influence.
And as you lead from overflow, others can sense the difference. You’re not striving to prove yourself, you’re simply walking in God’s design.
When you grow by His design, you lead with His grace.
What to Do Next: From Discovery to Deep Growth
If your faith growth has felt stalled, it’s not because you’re failing—it’s because you’ve been following the wrong blueprint.
The good news? God has already designed one that fits you perfectly.
Your Faith Shape™ is the first step—your personal key to understanding how you naturally connect with God. But it’s just the beginning of a much deeper journey.
Because once you know your Faith Shape™, the next question becomes:
How do I grow within it?
That’s where the Personalized Faith Plan™ (PFP) comes in.
Inside the PFP, we take what you discover in the quiz and turn it into a clear, intentional growth path. You’ll learn how to:
🌿 Build faith rhythms that actually fit your personality, season, and schedule
🌿 Integrate your spiritual life into your work, relationships, and leadership
🌿 Create habits that last—without guilt, striving, or comparison
🌿 Move from spiritual frustration to consistent, sustainable growth
The PFP helps you grow deeper in every area of your Faith Shape™—Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength—so your connection with God becomes stronger, steadier, and more life-giving over time.
Because your faith isn’t meant to feel forced.
It’s meant to flow.
So, if you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and start growing by design, here’s your next step:
✨ Take the Faith Shape Quiz to discover how God designed you to connect with Him.
✨ Then, schedule a call with me to talk about how the Personalized Faith Plan™ can help you turn that discovery into a customized plan for lasting growth.
You don’t need to start over—you just need a new rhythm.
One that fits you.
What would it look like for your faith to feel peaceful, purposeful, and personal again? Let’s chat in the comments.
Be filled to overflowing,
DeneenTB
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