Have you ever felt like your faith has hit a wall?
Like you’re doing all the “right” things—praying, going to church, reading your Bible—but deep down, something just feels… off?
In this Blog, we’re diving into 5 clear signs that are keeping you from spiritual growth and keeping you stagnant—and more importantly, how to break free in a way that actually fits your life.
Whether you’re a busy entrepreneur, a working professional, or simply trying to stay afloat with all the responsibilities on your plate, this isn’t about adding more to your schedule…
It’s about finding a rhythm of faith that brings joy, clarity, and renewed purpose—and it starts with one simple shift: creating a Personalized Faith Plan.
If you’ve been feeling stuck or disconnected from God, stay with me—this read could be the breakthrough your soul has been craving.
Sign 1: Lack of Joy in Your Faith
You’re doing all the “right” things—showing up at church, saying your prayers, maybe even reading your Bible regularly—but it feels… routine.
You’re going through the motions, but the joy that once filled your heart feels distant or absent.
Faith used to feel alive. Now it feels like just another thing on the to-do list. Like eating food that no longer has flavor. You know you need it… but it’s not satisfying.
This lack of joy can be discouraging, but it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It may just mean you’re trying to grow your faith in a way that doesn’t align with how God uniquely designed you.
Breakthrough: Rediscovering Joy Through Your Unique Design
Here’s the good news: God didn’t create you to fit into a one-size-fits-all spiritual box. He designed you uniquely—on purpose, with purpose.
You experience God best in different ways depending on how you are wired. That’s where the HSMS Model™ comes in, based on Mark 12:30, where Jesus calls us to love the Lord with all our Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength.
- Some women connect most through their Heart—through relationships, emotional expression, and meaningful connection with others.
- Others are Soul-led—they thrive in reflective spaces, experiencing God through beauty, creativity, music, or solitude.
- Some are Mind-led—they feel closest to God through learning, studying Scripture deeply, and applying truth logically.
- Others are Strength-led—action-oriented women who find joy by serving, doing, and living out their faith in practical, hands-on ways.
We each have a Primary Leading, and when you understand yours—and how God has wired you to engage with Him—everything shifts. You no longer feel like you’re failing if group Bible study isn’t your thing, or if journaling bores you. Instead, you step into a rhythm that feels natural and life-giving.
For example:
- If you’re Soul-led, your joy might be reignited through worship walks in nature or painting Scripture.
- If you’re Mind-led, digging into theological studies or podcasts may spark delight.
- If you’re Heart-led, you might feel most connected to God in deep conversations or prayer journaling.
- If you’re Strength-led, your spirit may come alive by volunteering, mentoring, or starting a mission-driven project.
Your joy returns when your faith expression aligns with how God created you to connect with Him.
Sign 2: Feeling Distant from God
You believe in God. You want to feel close to Him. And maybe, at one point, you did.
But now? He feels far away. Quiet. Almost like you’re praying into a void.
You show up—reading the Bible, going to church, saying prayers—but there’s still a lingering emptiness. A sense that something is missing.
It’s not that you’ve stopped believing. It’s that your soul is aching for connection—and you don’t know how to find it again.
For many of us, especially those of us balancing the demands of business, work, leadership, and family, this feeling of distance can sneak in slowly. At first, it’s just a few skipped quiet times or rushed prayers. Then it becomes a pattern. You still want to be close to God, but the spark is gone.
You might even wonder:
- Why can’t I feel God anymore?
- Am I doing something wrong?
- Why does faith feel like effort, instead of overflow?
This can be one of the most discouraging parts of spiritual stagnation—when you’re putting in the effort, but still feel spiritually dry. It’s not always because of sin or failure. Often, it’s because you’ve been trying to meet with God in a way that doesn’t align with how He designed you to connect with Him.
Breakthrough: Create a Rhythm of Spiritual Growth That Draws You Close to God
Feeling distant from God doesn’t mean He’s far from you—it often means your current rhythm isn’t nurturing the connection your heart truly craves.
That’s exactly what a Personalized Faith Plan (PFP) is designed to help you shift. Instead of giving you another list of “spiritual to-dos,” the PFP helps you create a customized rhythm and routine that brings you back into intimacy with God—in a way that feels natural, not forced.
The key? You start with your Primary Leading—the part of you that most easily connects with God (Heart, Soul, Mind, Strength).
When you begin with your strongest connection point—your primary leading—you’re not trying to force spiritual habits that don’t fit. Instead, you lean into what already opens your heart to God.
- If your primary leading is Heart, your routine might begin with relational prayer or expressive worship.
- If it’s Soul, you may start with journaling in silence, listening to worship music, or connecting with God through beauty.
- If you’re Mind-led, reflection on Scripture, theology studies, or listening to a teaching podcast might be the gateway to closeness.
- If your primary is Strength, beginning your day with action—like walking while praying or serving someone—may draw you in quickly.
Starting here builds momentum. It opens up a sense of intimacy with God that then flows into the other areas. It’s not about doing more—it’s about doing what works for how He designed you.
Once you’ve established that starting point, you build a simple, sustainable routine that weaves God into your daily life, in ways that bring closeness instead of pressure.
Because God doesn’t want you to strive harder—He wants you to draw near.
And when your routine aligns with your design, that closeness becomes possible again.
Sign 3: Inconsistent or Nonexistent Spiritual Practices
You want to grow spiritually. You know spending time with God is important.
But between work deadlines, meetings, family responsibilities, and just trying to get a minute to breathe… your spiritual practices are hit-or-miss—or maybe missing altogether.
Maybe you’ve told yourself things like:
- “I’ll get back to reading my Bible regularly when life slows down.”
- “I should be praying more.”
- “Next week I’ll make time.”
But next week comes, and nothing changes.
The truth is, it’s not about a lack of desire—it’s about a lack of rhythm that fits your current life. And if you’re like most women, the rhythm you’ve been told to follow doesn’t match your reality.
So what happens? Guilt builds. The inconsistency grows. And you feel even further from the deep faith life you long for.
Breakthrough: Redefining What It Looks Like to Meet with God
The shift begins with letting go of the “shoulds” and embracing the way God actually wired you to grow.
A Personalized Faith Plan (PFP) helps you release the unrealistic expectations and build a doable, life-giving rhythm that fits your current season—not someone else’s.
That means:
- You don’t need an hour of silence in the morning if you’re a mom juggling breakfast and backpacks.
- You don’t have to feel bad for not journaling pages a day if writing drains you.
- You don’t have to wait until the “perfect time” to meet with God—you can integrate Him into your day in small, meaningful ways that renew your spirit.
It’s really about building spiritual practices that match your design and your daily life.
For example:
- If you’re Heart-led, you might start your day by voicing your prayers aloud during your morning routine or texting a prayer partner for encouragement.
- If you’re Soul-led, five minutes of worship music during your lunch break could become a powerful time of connection.
- If you’re Mind-led, listening to a Bible podcast or audio Scripture while you commute can be deeply nourishing.
- If you’re Strength-led, turning your errands into a prayer walk or serving in your community as worship may be your best entry point.
The mindset shift here is key:
Instead of thinking I need to carve out a big block of time to meet with God,
You begin to ask, How can I meet with God in the flow of my real life—starting with how He designed me to connect with Him?
You don’t need a perfect morning routine. You need a personal pathway to God that works for your life right now.
Because spiritual growth isn’t about quantity—it’s about connection. And connection comes through alignment with your design and your daily reality.
Sign 4: Comparing Your Spiritual Growth and Journey to Others
You scroll through social media or sit in a Bible study and can’t help but notice how “together” everyone else seems.
- She’s leading women’s ministry.
- She can quote Scripture like a seminary professor.
- She prays with such eloquence.
- She volunteers for everything and still shows up smiling.
Meanwhile, you’re feeling unqualified, inconsistent, or just… not enough. You begin to wonder:
- Is my faith even real?
- Why don’t I feel as “spiritual” as she looks?
- Am I behind?
This kind of comparison creeps in quietly, but it can choke out the joy and confidence in your own walk with God.
And it often comes from a well-meaning but misguided standard we pick up in church culture—what faith is supposed to look like.
When our eyes are constantly on what others are doing, our faith becomes performance-based. It becomes church-centered—focused on matching what we see others doing, instead of responding to what God is inviting us into.
Breakthrough: From Church-Centered Comparison to God-Centered Clarity
A Personalized Faith Plan (PFP) helps you break free from the trap of comparison by anchoring you in your true design and God’s personal invitation to you.
When you understand how God uniquely wired you to grow—through your HSMS leadings (Heart, Soul, Mind, Strength)—you stop striving to match someone else’s journey and start embracing your own.
This is the shift from church-centered faith to God-centered faith.
It’s not that the church isn’t important—it’s that your connection to God must be personal.
When your eyes shift from what everyone else is doing to how God is leading you, everything changes:
- You stop feeling “behind” and start feeling aligned.
- You stop mimicking others and start moving confidently in your own lane.
- You stop performing and start truly connecting with God.
That’s the power of a Personalized Faith Plan.
It gives you permission to grow in a way that’s authentic, sustainable, and deeply personal—because that’s what God desires.
And suddenly? The pressure lifts. The guilt fades. And the joy of intimacy with God returns—this time, not because you’re “keeping up,” but because you’re finally keeping close to the One who knows you best.
Sign 5: Lack of Clear Purpose or Direction
You believe in and love God, attend church and try to live out your values.
But deep down, there’s this lingering question: How does my faith actually connect to my daily life?
You may feel spiritually compartmentalized—faith in one box, work in another, even family in another. You long to feel purpose in what you’re doing, but instead, you feel confused or stuck in the mundane. It’s like you’re waiting for God to show up in a big way… but not sure if you’re missing something in the meantime.
Maybe you’ve even thought:
- Is this job really where I’m supposed to be?
- Is my business actually making a Kingdom impact?
- I want to serve God… but how do I do that in the middle of meetings, errands, and emails?
This feeling of disconnection can lead to spiritual numbness and stagnant spiritual growth. Because when we don’t see how faith integrates into our real, everyday calling, we begin to believe the lie that our spiritual life is somehow “less than” unless it looks like full-time ministry.
Breakthrough: Embracing Your Role and Spritual Growth in God’s Bigger Story
Here’s the truth: You are already in ministry.
Your workplace, business, home, and community—these are the very places God strategically placed you to reveal His goodness.
A Personalized Faith Plan (PFP) helps you connect your spiritual growth with your God-given calling, so you no longer have to live a divided life.
This isn’t just about personal fulfillment—it’s about fulfilling your role in the Great Commission.
You are on the front lines of Kingdom work—right where you are. Whether you’re managing a business, leading a team, serving clients, raising children, or creating something meaningful in the world, you are a living, breathing example of God’s grace and truth.
When your faith is no longer confined to Sunday mornings but flows through every decision, relationship, and opportunity—you’ll stop wondering what your purpose is, and start living it.
Because you weren’t meant to separate your faith from your calling.
You were meant to embody it.
You’re Not Spiritually Broken—You’re Just Misaligned
If you saw yourself in one—or maybe all—of these five signs, take a deep breath.
You’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not failing.
What you’re experiencing isn’t a spiritual flaw—it’s a signal. A holy invitation to pause, realign, and rediscover a faith that feels alive, joyful, and personal.
Too often, we assume spiritual growth means doing more, trying harder, or keeping up with others. But what if the answer isn’t found in hustle or comparison…
The answer is found in alignment.
- Alignment with how God uniquely designed you to connect with Him.
- Alignment with the purpose He’s already placed in you.
- Alignment with a faith rhythm that fits your real life—not someone else’s.
That’s what the Personalized Faith Plan is all about.
Reignite Your Faith Journey and Spiritual Growth
I want to invite you to take the next simple, powerful step toward clarity, joy, and connection in your walk with God.
I invite you to watch my Free Training: How to redefine faith growth by embracing freedom, confidence, and a God-centered journey Breaking free from comparison, guilt, and self-doubt to have a Faith-life that connects your heart to God’s heart.
In this free training, you’ll:
- Learn the 3 key mindset shifts that will transform how you approach your faith
- Discover the HSMS Model™ and how your primary leading shows you where God is already inviting you to grow
- See how the Personalized Faith Plan works and how it can help you finally create a rhythm of spiritual growth that feels natural and sustainable
Also access the Faith Shape Assessment, a short but insightful quiz to uncover your primary HSMS leading—your personal doorway to deeper faith.
Let me know in the comments: What’s been your biggest struggle when it comes to spiritual growth—and what breakthrough are you hoping for?
Be filled to overflowing,
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