“I used to feel so guilty about my spiritual life. I’d start the week strong, but by Wednesday? I was already behind on my ‘quiet time,’ hadn’t opened my Bible, and felt like I was failing God. Sound familiar?”
If you’ve ever felt like your faith life is more about keeping up than actually connecting with God—you’re not alone. And you’re not doing anything wrong.
Let’s talk about a new, grace-filled way to grow in your faith—a way that works with your life, not against it.
For years, I wrestled with the same questions you might be asking right now:
- “Why can’t I stay consistent?”
- “Why do I feel like I’m never doing enough spiritually?”
- “Is there something wrong with me?”
That struggle led me to develop the Personalized Faith Plan™—a simple, Spirit-led strategy that helps you stop striving and start abiding. It’s not about being “better”—it’s about walking closely with God in a way that reflects how He uniquely designed you.
What we believe about faith growth
Let’s be real: most of us want to grow in our faith. But instead of joy and depth, we often feel… guilty. Like no matter how hard we try, we’re never doing enough.
We think we should…
- Wake up at 5 a.m. every day to pray and read our Bible
- Attend every church service and Bible study
- Journal daily
- Volunteer constantly
- Memorize scripture like a machine
- Never miss a quiet time
And if we don’t check every one of those boxes? Cue the guilt. And instead of drawing closer to God, we start pulling away—feeling like failures in our own faith life.
But what if there’s a better way?
What if you could actually grow deep in your relationship with God—without guilt, burnout, or shame?
Introducing FRAME: A Guilt-Free Path to Faith Growth
If you’ve ever felt like your faith life doesn’t “measure up”—you’re not alone.
The problem isn’t your heart or your desire to grow. The problem is the one-size-fits-all spiritual growth formula we’ve been given.
At the heart of our Personalized Faith Plan™ is a framework called FRAME—a pathway that helps you grow in faith based on how God uniquely designed you.
FRAME stands for: (show photo)
- Faith
- acceleRator
- shAping
- Mature
- disciplEs
But more than an acronym, FRAME is a powerful tool that helps you identify how God uniquely designed you to grow spiritually.
At its core, FRAME is built around a biblical foundation:
Mark 12:30 – “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and all your soul, and all your mind, and all your strength.”
This is where the HSMS model™ comes in—Heart, Soul, Mind, Strength.
These are the four ways we are called to love God, and they represent four distinct approaches to connecting with Him.
Inside the FRAME tool, we use the HSMS model™ to uncover your Faith Growth Leadings:
- Primary Leading – The dominant way you naturally connect with God (Heart, Soul, Mind, or Strength)
- Secondary Leading – The supportive style that keeps you spiritually energized
- Insight Leading – The perspective you use to interpret your spiritual journey
- Aspiration Leading – The area where God is inviting you to grow and mature
FRAME the structure and substance
Think of it like this:
FRAME gives you the structure, and HSMS gives you the substance.
Together, they form a personalized blueprint for your spiritual growth—based not on pressure or performance, but on how God uniquely wired you to experience His presence and truth.
Rather than forcing yourself into someone else’s routine (and feeling guilty when it doesn’t stick), FRAME + HSMS gives you permission to build a rhythm that works for your life right now—one that feels natural, freeing, and deeply connected.
It’s not about doing more. It’s about doing what matters—for you.
This is how we shift from guilt to grace. From spiritual striving to Spirit-led thriving.
And it starts with learning how you were created to grow.
Grow in Smaller Bites, Go Deeper Over Time
Here’s something most of us weren’t taught: spiritual growth doesn’t have to come from a single big block of “quiet time.”
In fact, for busy women juggling work, home, relationships, and everything in between, trying to fit all your time with God into one moment can feel overwhelming. And when life inevitably disrupts that plan?
We feel defeated.
But there’s a better, more effective way: small spiritual moments throughout your day.
- A quick prayer before a meeting
- Whispering a scripture verse while washing dishes
- Listening to worship music on a walk
- Asking God a question in the carpool line and listening for His answer
- Jotting a quick gratitude list in your notes’ app
- Speaking a blessing over your kids or your team
These small, intentional moments are like sips of Living Water that keep your soul hydrated all day long. They add up, root you and connect you to God in real time.
John 7:38 says this so beautifully,
“Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.”
And remember, Jesus often walked with His disciples. He didn’t just teach them once in the morning and send them off—He lived among them, interacting moment by moment.
You can experience that same with-God life—by inviting Him into the everyday.
From Guilt to Grace: Integrating Faith Into Your Life
So many women carry quiet guilt around their spiritual life. It’s not always loud—but it lingers.
You might not even realize it’s there until you miss a devotional, forget to pray over your lunch, or realize another week has gone by without opening your Bible.
And in that moment, the enemy whispers:
- “See? You’re not committed enough.”
- “Other women are doing this better.”
- “God must be disappointed in you.”
But that guilt? It’s not from God.
God is not waiting for you to perform. He’s inviting you into relationship. That means spiritual growth isn’t about how much you do—it’s about how closely you walk with Him.
The beauty of FRAME is that it doesn’t ask you to add more to your to-do list. It shows you how to integrate your faith into the life you already have.
When you understand how you’re designed and what truly fuels your connection with God, faith becomes a life rhythm, not a guilt trip.
- Prayer becomes a conversation, not a chore
- Scripture becomes nourishment, not homework
- Your schedule becomes sacred, not segmented
You don’t have to earn closeness with God. You just have to open the space for it—bit by bit, breath by breath.
When you stop striving and start abiding, guilt falls away—and grace flows in.
That’s when your faith life becomes less about checking boxes and more about truly walking with God in real time.
You Don’t Have to Grow Like Everyone Else
Or need to copy someone else’s faith life to be close to God.
You were created with intention and purpose—and God wants to meet you in a way that feels like home to your soul.
That’s exactly what the Personalized Faith Plan™ (PFP) is all about.
Inside the PFP, you’ll walk through the FRAME Tool™, which not only helps you discover your growth leadings—your Primary, Secondary, Insight, and Aspiration pathways—but also includes our powerful HSMS Method™ that helps you grow in a balanced, biblical way—so your entire life is shaped by faith, not just one part of your day or week.
And here’s the best part: you can get started with the FREE PFP Training, where I walk you through how to finally grow in your faith without guilt, shame, or unrealistic expectations.
You’ll see how to:
- Align with how you were designed to connect with God
- Create a spiritual rhythm that actually fits your life
- Say goodbye to comparison and guilt
- And build a faith that fuels your work, home, and calling
You don’t have to strive anymore or feel behind.
You just need a plan that works for you.
Ready to get started? Join the Free Personalized Faith Plan Training here!
God’s not grading your performance—He’s inviting you to grow in your faith and into a deeper relationship. Let’s stop trying to “fit in” faith, and instead, live in faith.
Let me know in the comments: “What’s one small way you could invite God into your day today—in a way that feels natural and life-giving to you?”
Be filled to overflowing,
DeneenTB
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