Five day work week:
8 hours at work per day
4.5 hours domestic work (cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking) per day
2 hours with the kids per day
3 hours in the car per day
Does this sound like your week? Did you know that as a woman you do this much? If you count up the hours you actually are at -1.5 hours each day. That means you either don’t sleep your recommended 8 hours or you combine activities (do I hear multi-tasking).
You are a strong woman. You have amazing qualities that are unmatched. AND, you have so many titles too. Let’s see: Entrepreneur, Business Owner, Professional, Mother, Wife, Sister, Homemaker, Boss, PTA Chair, Coach . . . and I am sure there are more you could add. My question is, when is there time for you to be, You? When do you get to do one thing that is just for you? How do you recharge so you have something to give to others, to all the demands of your life?
YOU are not alone. There are many women (most women) just like you. Right now we are all standing side-by-side yet do not see one another, really. Oh yes, we encounter one another at meetings, we see one another at our children’s games, we say ‘hi’ as we pass in the corridor at work, and smile at one another at church. But we are islands, alone in the sea of busyness and survival. We need to find one another. We need to see one another, reach out to one another and thrive.
As humans we are wired for Community, for belonging. In our modern world we have created forced Communities that give the illusion of sharing life together. But you can still feel alone in a crowd, right? You show up in these Communities with only one part of who you are, wearing the ‘hat’ that is appropriate for the situation. It can make you feel fragmented, not whole.
For me this has been a very real situation within the church Community. For years I have been involved in Bible study groups. What I have found is that there are ‘permissible’ subjects (family, marriage, home) that we are allowed to share about our lives and there are parts of our lives we are not allowed to share (work, business). Now, there are no written rules about this but it is understood and felt. My question is this, If the bulk of a woman’s day, your day, is filled with your profession, why is it that we cannot use the situations that arise as examples in our Bible study? If we are called to share Jesus with others don’t we need to discuss how to do that in the Marketplace?
I want to bring my whole self into any Community I enter. I am the same complete person whether in the board room, classroom, ball field, or church auditorium. All my ‘hats’, who I am, need to be displayed. It IS who I am and it is who you are too. Don’t be afraid to show-up Holy, Whole & Complete.
So where can you find a Community, a REAL Community, willing to let you share your whole self? It does exist. There is a place for you to BE who you are and talk about the concerns you have at every level and part of your life. AND, we meet for Bible study at lunchtime! It is a space carved out for you to fill-up, be recharged, explore your faith, and learn from one another. Romans 12:10 says, Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. I want that for you. I want you to feel the affection and honor we have for you as a complete woman. Let us be your Community, let’s build it together.
Be filled to Overflowing,
P.S. Our new Bible/Book Club begins in August. It meets the 1st and 3rdMondays of each month from 11:45am-1pm. We are reading & discussing Today Matters by John Maxwell. Register for this FREE Club atwww.GrowFromYourOverflow.com/events